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Cake day: March 27th, 2025

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  • I know Lemmy’s objection to most of these and I honestly dislike them too (oh no, brainwashed drone alert! Honestly, I consider myself quite lucky I hit a group where I actually do match the hivemind instead of being different yet again. Except I think Lemmy has a much higher tolerance for political posts, and for personal insults towards people who don’t share the hivemind than I do, but hey, you’ll probably never hit 100% consensus with any big group), except: I wasn’t aware that Lemmy had something against a can of beans. Genuinely, could someone please explain? Is this a reference to something, or is it genuine dislike towards canned beans? What’s wrong with canned beans?







  • All I can say is that for the bad things in my life, I haven’t come to terms with them at all. I still consider them shitty and bad, even if I have found silver linings. I am not one of those “I am so glad X disaster happened to me because of Y positive outcome it led to” types, I’d rather not have had X happen at all, though of course I say that as someone who has not had such a big silver lining come of my negatives in life. The mental pain fades with time. (Can’t speak to physical, thankfully, let us hope it stays that way, but that also means my advice might not be quite as applicable to you.) I do not and will not feel obligated to come to terms with these things or accept them (I accept them in the sense that they are events that happened in reality and I acknowledge reality as what it is, but not in the sense of being okay with it), it just happens to be that time means they take up less headspace and I do not dwell on them—a pretty similar end result to what I think most people who “come to terms” get. All this is to say: mourn, grieve, don’t feel obligated to act happy for others, and the “come to terms, get over it/see something positive” path will not always work for everyone and you can move on with life without taking that path.











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